Wednesday, 13 July 2011

A guy and a girl gets into an elevator..

And the guy asks the female if she would like to come to his place for a cup of coffee.. Sorry this is not the start of a dirty joke. But instead the newest drama on the atheist-youtube-internets. Where skepchick aka Rebecca Watson had the experience of sharing an elevator with a guy, who asked if she would like to have a cup of coffee, and she rejected, and then made a video about the incident, proclaiming she had been sexualised. That is the story as objective as I possibly can make it. 
Original video 
Now for my own subjective opinion.

Yes, the proposal for coffee and or sex might have been in bad taste. But so what? Speaking as a male, to get some, you might have to do something that is in bad taste or akward. That is the male role, yay for equality here, because what are the chances that the woman makes the first move? 
It is presumed and accepted that guys make the first move. Almost never the females. And that of course makes akward situations. This weekend me and a mate were in the town, clubbing, and guess how many females approached us. Correct; 0. We/he approached at least 3 x 2 girls, and none accepted a drink. 
I have the disadvantage that I hate talking one-on-one, with anyone, especially without making any lameass jokes, which mean I don't bag that many girls, because most of the time I have to be the one proposing. I have an online dating profile (okay, I have multiple, shut up), and I think the times I have gotten a message from a girl, where she took the initiative, can be counted on one hand, where the times I have written, you need a calculator and extra toes. 

So what is my point? It is fairly normal for a guy to ask a female if they should get a cup of coffee. 
There is no harm in this. Now he did ask in the elevator, and Ms. Watson stated it was uncomfortable for her. Really? How do you assume he felt? You ever considered that? 
He was just shot down, and now he has to ride alongside you, feeling ashamed. He was probably more embarrased than you were. He had to the job, and the set up, and it failed. Ergo he failed. How do you think he felt.. He couldn't get away either. 

And how did he sexualize you, Skepchick? For fucks sake, your name contain the phrase chick. And without knowing, I can assume it doesn't refer to Jack Chick, but instead to the expression for an attractive female. So you sexualize yourself. All he did was asking for a longer discussion, maybe a private discussion, over a cup of coffee. Maybe he just wanted to boink you. That is not for us to know, but I always thought innocent until proven guilty.. but I guess not..
And you have this on your website, Rebecca.

"1) The calendar applicant’s final photo is “pin-up” in nature, and includes science-y, skeptical, geeky goodness. We’re not after overt nudity, but rather ask that it be titillatingly and tastefully used. We are after the skeptical/science/nerd/geek angle, and those photos that use both will have an advantage. This is the main category for most everyone considering applying."

Sexualizing you? GO FUCK YOURSELF.  

So once again you sexualize yourself, by assuming that you cannot stand a discussion with him, but instead just strip naked. And you sexualize him, by assuming all he wanted was to touch you with his genitals. Actually by that single comment(s), he proved that there is sexism in the Atheist Community (TM). Let's assume that you had been unattractive, and he was a normal looking guy, and the same scenario unfolded.. What do you think the reaction would have been? Would he also just be looking for sex?
And you don't know anything about him, Watson. He could have been married, and just thought you were dead wrong on the issue, and might had a clumsy way of asking you to go discussing them. (4-5 beers can do this) Because not everybody likes to discuss these things in public. 

A lot of people have complained one shouldn't hit on a female on an elevator, because it is an enclosed unescapable area. What complete bullshit, because you can say that about everywhere. The only difference is that the elevator is kinda small.  But you can get off almost everywhere in an elevator. There are all the floors, and you can just say "Oh, I am getting of here" and then wait 20 seconds for the next elevator. No fucking problem. Next you can't hit on female in the club, because there is no escape there. Except leave, but since you paid.. 
Where does it end? 

Yes, it might have been clumsy, but if females should bitch about every time a guy hits on them and it is akward, they would have take time off in their daily routines. God knows that is more likely to happen, than girls taking the first step. Sometimes you as a heterosexual male just don't know if the female wants you. She might play hard-to-get or she might not be interested. The difference between the two - are as small as my penis. Almost non-existent. And then what are we supposed to do as guys? Just let women do all the akwardness? So, we should almost never get laid. 

Or perhaps we should only sleep with people we know fairly well. So no more one-nighters. 

So is any of this worth anyone's time? Nope. Just a regular occurence. A clumsy guy asks a girl out. End of story. 
But as many have suggested, what if the roles were reversed... 

And now to radfems.. What are you, fucking retarded? That he should be interested in raping her? Why? Not everyone with a penis is a rapist. Far from it actually.
Secondly, it would make no sense. Oi, would you like to go my room, 38c, so we can have coffee and then I could rape you. I might not be up on my hotelmanagement, but don't you reserve your room in your name? Don't you usually pay with your creditcard? So it makes no sense, since he would have been discovered faster than finding Valdo here:

So my opinion on this summed up: If you girls don't want males to hit on you akwardly, then either start hitting on guys yourself, you know equality, or start to show some fucking interest. Or at least stop bitching about a guy showing some interest. 

-Radon -single -has never been hit on in an elevator. 

You know what they say about elevators.. They go up and down.. Like girls riding my penis..
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1 comment:

  1. Would Rebecca Watson be equally upset if the nice man explained to her that he would never consider asking her up to his room for a coffee because he thought she was not interesting enough?
    Would she find that equally offensive? The rejection of dinner or coffee rather than a proposition for the same?
    ELEVATOR RIDE: "Hello there. Don't take this the wrong way but, i find you interesting but would not entertain the thought of asking you to my room for coffee. I just don't think i could take the chance considering the fact that my offer for coffee may be interpreted as a request for a blow job."